The Wake-Up We Don't Ask For

Today I heard the news of the unexpected passing of a colleague’s husband. He was just 62.

I didn’t know them well, but I knew enough to feel it. They were one of those couples you quietly admire—loving and respectful towards each other, so comfortable in each other's presence.

And it hit me harder than I expected. I had time today, I didn’t brush it off, I didn’t distract myself, I let it land and I wanted it to. And what surfaced, loud and clear, (yet again), was this:

Don’t take things for granted.

The Autopilot Trap

Most of us aren’t intentionally ungrateful. We’re just busy.

We move through our days on autopilot—doing, organising, responding, managing. We assume the people we love will still be there tomorrow. We assume our bodies will keep doing what they’ve always done. We assume life will carry on as it has.

Until something reminds us it won’t.

What Taking Things for Granted Actually Looks Like

It’s not dramatic, actually it’s quite subtle. It's quiet and it happens everyday.
It looks like:

In Relationships

• Walking past your partner without really seeing them
• Having conversations that are purely logistical
• Assuming “they know I love them” without saying it
• Getting irritated over small things, forgetting the bigger picture
• Delaying connection because you’re “too tired” or “too busy”
• Not asking deeper questions anymore

It’s the slow drift from presence to co-existence.

With Friends and Family

• Not returning calls because life feels full
• Cancelling catch-ups without rescheduling
• Assuming there will always be “another time”
• Forgetting to check in when you think of someone
• Letting relationships sit on the back burner indefinitely

Connection doesn’t disappear overnight—it fades through neglect. The same way every living thing dies off if it's not nourished or watered.

With Your Health and Body

• Ignoring fatigue and pushing through
• Assuming your body will “just cope”
• Not moving because you’ve “gotten away with it so far”
• Taking pain, stiffness, or low energy as normal
• Delaying care, rest, or recovery

Until suddenly … it’s not so easy anymore.

With Everyday Privileges

• Turning on a tap without thought
• Eating without awareness 
• Complaining about minor inconveniences
• Rushing through moments that once felt meaningful
• Forgetting how much of life is actually working

We do tend to adapt quickly to comfort—and forget how fortunate we really are.

Life Paths

Some people meet their person and stay together forever. Some grow apart and find new connections that better align with who they’ve become. Some never find that kind of romantic love—but are deeply held by friendships and family. And sadly some lose people far too soon.

Behind the different paths I believe there is one shared truth:

None of it is guaranteed.

A Simple Invitation: One Week of Reflection

What would it look like to live as though nothing was guaranteed? To not take things for granted—not in a fearful way, but in a present way.

I invite you to try this:

• Look at the people in your life—really look
• Say the things you assume they already know
• Pause before reacting to something small
• Move your body with appreciation, not obligation
• Notice what is working, not just what isn’t
• Sit in moments instead of rushing through them

This isn’t about adding more. It’s about slowing down and waking up to what’s already here. 

Because Tomorrow Isn’t Promised

We hear that phrase often and logically we know it's true. But most of the time, we don’t feel it. Until something brings it closer. Today was yet another of those moments for me. A deep sadness for those taken too soon, for the pain the families and friends are feeling. Sadness for those struggling with their health, their circumstances. It left me with a grounding reminder to slow down, to be here, to pay attention, to stop waiting.

P.S.

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